Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there – fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge – they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I’ve got a sneaking suspicion… love actually is all around.

-Love Actually (2003)

You live in a city graced with a population of more than 2 million, where every day more men and women are turning 24-28-31–37, where more and more people are moving here, a city where every day new people become single.

Yet most people look at dating and relationships with scarcity. Scarcity is what makes people settle for less than they deserve: Less of a partner and less of a relationship. Finally, scarcity is the source of clinginess – a trait that many men and women cite as the number one turnoff.

If you’re reading this, you’re very likely one of the few that doesn’t feel that “all the good ones are gone” or that all you’re left with is an ocean of ineligible bachelors and bachelorettes. Instead, you take a deep breathe, and think about how many potential partners are dying to meet you and get to know you in this moment. Rather than sitting around moping and feeling sorry for yourself, or trying to get over an old relationship or a rejection, you realize that you can’t deny the two of you the pleasure of an incredible time.

When you come from a place of abundance, magic starts to happen. You’ll be surrounded by more friends and potential partners than you know what to do with and you’ll go into every interaction and relationship knowing that you’re coming from a place of choice.